By: Katherine R. Oyson
There was a story about two friends who were walking through the dessert. During some point of hteir journey, they had argument, and one friend slapped the other one in the face. The one who got slapped was hurt, but without saying anything, wrote in the sand: “Todaymy best friend slapped me in the face.”
They kept on walking until they found an oasis, where they decided to take a bath. The one who had been slapped got stuck in the mire and the started drowning; but the friend saved him. After he recovered from the near drowning, he wrote on a stone: “Today my best friend save my life.”
The friend who had slapped and saved his best firend asked him, “After I hurt you, wou worte in the sand and now, you write on a stone, why?”
The other firend replied , “When someone hurts us, we should write it down in the sand where winds of forgiveness can erase it away. But when someone does something good for us, we must engrave it in stone where no wind can ever erase it.”
What message does the story convey? An unkown writer has this advise, “Learn to forgive those who have hurt you and remember the kindness that received from others.”
Nearly every one of us has been hurt by the actions or words of others, that it is impossible for us just to let it go or fall on deaf ears. Anger and hatred and even bitterness pester in our being, to the point that we can’t sleep soundly because of the hurt that has been done to us. There are even some of us who would go to the extent of getting even.
Writer Katherine Piderman, Ph.D., said that if we harbor anger, hatred and bitterness in our hearts, we may be the one to pay the price most dearly. Letting compassion, kindness andpece. Forgivenss can psychological well-being, less stress and hostility, lower blood pressure, fewer symptoms of depression,anxiety, and chronic pain, and lower risk of alcohol and substance abuse. Hence, there’s nothing like practicing loving kindness by forgiveness and always to remember the good deeds that we received from others.
To practice loving kindness gives a wave of peace, serenity, and joy, especially not forgetting those who have extended help to us in one way or another. The www.visionarylead.org points out that there are some ways wherein we can practice loving kindness. These are the following:
Reflect on the kindness of others. This will help you see the positive side of any situation regardless how difficult it may be. Contemlate what other people have done for you in large and small ways. Focus on a specific friend or family member, and remember all the good they have done.
Remember an experience of love that someone gave you. Reflect on how it really moved you.
Repay the kindness of others. Take the perpective that many people have helped you. Everyone you meet may have helped you in some way, directly or indirectly. Every encounter becomes an opportunity to repay someone’s kindness. This attitute can change your life.
Contemplate the positive qualities of others. Generate loving kindness towards each person and the wish for him or her to be happy. This can help transform negative emotions such as anger or jealousy.
Consider others the same as yourself. This will give you greater insight into how to truly help someone.
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I have read her article in The Freeman Newspaper…Her article is a realization to those who have negative points of view in life…believe me thats what had happened to me and amazing!!..smile and the world will smile to you…more from her article soon..